How do you know that you are in a good relationship? You know when you find yourself embracing the worst and best of yourself. When you are challenged to be a better person and to walk away from contentment and mediocrity. When the relationship does not allow you to hide from yourself or anyone else but makes you face and confront issue head on; even the ones that cause you the most shame. As a result of the relationship, you are constantly held accountable to be who God has called you to be. You know, when you look in the mirror and find that you are a better person after you began the relationship then you were before started it. When your relationship enhances the progression of your personal God given dreams, visions, and goals. Finally, when your confidence is nurtured as a result of your bond.
What I have found is that more than anything, God wants a good relationship with His children. He does not want any of us to feel less than what He has created us to be. A lot of times, we get in human relationships that make us feel inadequate and worthless. We lose confidence in ourselves and as a result, we find our worth in something or someone else. God wants to be all things to us if we give Him the chance. In addition, God can make/ send wonderful, successful relationships into our lives. I have been married for almost a year, next week will make 11 months. As I review my self as a person, I can happily say that I am a better person now than I was when I first said I do. It is a blessing that I have both a relationship with my savior, Jesus Christ, and a wonderful relationship with my Husband. Both challenge me to be better, neither will allow me to be mediocre in sin or complacency. Instead, both relationships make me peel back the layers of my life to see where I can improve and what I can do differently. I no longer just want to revel in my wonderful attributes, but I am now embracing the challenges of confronting the parts of me I would rather brush under the rug. My relationship with my husband and with God are helping me conquer shame by confrontation.
For some of us, if you want to get different results, and be in a different place it is going to call for confrontation. Good relationships push you there. God wants to take us all to a higher calling and a greater purpose. We have to extend ourselves and stretch out to meet God there. This means we have uncover some scars that we placed bandages of denial and avoidance on. We have to reopen some cuts and some wounds. Good relationships help to stitch up those wounds, so that they may never be opened again.
Avoidance and denial are nothing but a temporary bandages. After a while, the bandages gets old and we have to come up with something else to renew the bandage, whether that be a lie or denial, we try to be blind to the pain and stop the bleeding. Good relationships, the relationship that God wants with all of us, is one that will stop the bleeding without a bandage. A Godly relationship is healing. It cleanses and leaves no trace of injury.
Avoidance and denial are nothing but a temporary bandages. After a while, the bandages gets old and we have to come up with something else to renew the bandage, whether that be a lie or denial, we try to be blind to the pain and stop the bleeding. Good relationships, the relationship that God wants with all of us, is one that will stop the bleeding without a bandage. A Godly relationship is healing. It cleanses and leaves no trace of injury.
It can be scary to enter into good relationships because you will uncover hurts and open doors that have been closed or hidden for so many years. Once you give yourself to it, a better and more productive you is on the way. God wants to open you up to your destiny. Commune with Him, ask Him into your heart, make a renewed commitment today to be open to God's accountability and compassion.
There is nothing that we can do to take His love away from us. Romans 8:35-39 reads: "Can anything ever separate us from Christ's love? Does it mean he no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or hungry, or destitute, or in danger, or threatened with death? (As the Scripture says, "For your sake we were killed everyday; we are being slaughtered like sheep). No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is our through Christ, who loved us. And I am convinced that noting can ever separate us from God's love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow - not even the powers of hell can separate us from God's love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below- indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord."(NLT).
If you are reading this today, and find yourself plummeting in the romantic relationship or the friendship that you built with someone, I want you to ask yourself what you feel that you are worth. God's desire is for your to be prosperous in every area of your life. Those who find God, find life (Proverbs 8:35). That includes romantic love and your friendships with other people. You are worth the world to God. If you give your heart to God and invite Him in, God will help you rebuild your life, your confidence, and help you develop good Godly relationships.
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I thank both God and my wife for challenging me to live beyond an average life. My realtionship with my wife and God has made me a better son, man and a better husband. Embracing past struggle, hurts, and pains makes the future a more promissing life. Together my wife and I are stronger, and even more so Lovers and Friends to each other and with each other. I'm looking forward to growing, loving,laughing, smiling, and even crying with her whatever it takes for me to be a better man. If you have problems with relationships ask yourself do you have a problem with your past. If the answer is Yes then get a shovel embrace the pain when you start digging up the past just know once your done digging and you find whats been holding you back in relationships grab the problem by the throat and say I'm not scared or ashamed of you no more. Sometimes you have to dig internally sort of like surgery to be made whole internally and externally. Whatever ever your dealing with inside usually comes outside. To love the love one's God has given you better. Dont risk loosing them because of guilt and shame of not wanting to deal and confronts things of your past. In a long run you will be happy you did it because you truly became who you truly were created to be once all the layers and walls are broken down from preventing people from seeing the authentic you the real you. You will learn the real you is much better than the you that hurts and pains created. Live life have fun again this is what I've learned by embracing my past. I now live for my future because my past is truly behind me for it is was defeated when i embraced it. Notice i didnt say fight it but I embraced it.
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